As a parent and teacher myself, it is a little upsetting that parents are asking for feedback about teachers openly on social media. Some are just curious, I know, and want to feel like their child will have a positive year. Others are ready to gossip or receive information that makes them prepared to pounce when the need arises. Connections between teachers and students vary and one parent experience with a teacher may be completely different than another. I make no prejudgments about students or parents, despite what others may try to tell me, as every child and family deserves to be known personally and to be given all they need to be successful. Teachers deserve the same courtesy. If parents and teachers want the same thing and work together to support each child with open and respectful communication, that child has the ideal condition to learn and grow. I understand wanting to know more, but every child, parent, and teacher deserves the benefit of the doubt.
This goes both ways! Teachers and staff share information about students, what worked, what didn’t work, any special needs or nuances that will help us best support the child. We do not need to share or hear negative gossip.
So what I propose is Team Student! We trust that we all want what is best for a child and handle all situations throughout the year with that mindset. None of us are perfect. We do not handle everything with grace, but we can try harder. When you have a concern, take time to process it. Write down your thoughts. Try not to email, call, message, and definitely not post when you are upset or angry. We teach our children to manage their emotions, to think before they act, but the best example is when we model that behavior. Avoid negative comments to the child about the teacher, staff, or school. Think about how the child will best be served. We are all human and make mistakes. Approach each incident and person with one thought, does this help and set a positive example for the child? There are times we need to advocate for children, absolutely, but how we do it matters.
Be kind. I know we hear that frequently, but I am guilty of not practicing it. After hearing a speaker at work this week clearly distinguish the difference between being nice and being kind, I have the ideal perspective to start the year, both as a teacher and a parent of 4 school-age daughters. Being nice is reactionary. We treat others according to how they treat us. Being kind is INTENTIONAL. It is a choice within ourselves and can be practiced no matter how those around us behave. This year I vow to be more intentional with my kindness, at home and at school. Staff members are human with things going on in their lives, same as parents. Kindness can go a long way in raising our children and it does not mean we are doormats. It means we are strong, and we choose to model what we ask of the youngest among us. We support each other, consider feelings and circumstances, make everyone feel welcome and valued, and we cheer each other on. This school year, every school year, and beyond can be a positive year if we automatically join the same team from day 1 and commit to it. An intentional change in mindset and behavior is a powerful tool! Best wishes to everyone on Team Student this year!